February 18, 2006
Gay Adoption: Who gets Hurt?
Gay adoption has become the newest push by homosexual groups and the Catholic church seems to be almost alone in fighting it. Why is gay adoption a problem? It hurts children.
Before explaining why, I wanted to quote this passage from the Catechism, which is excellent:
CCC 2361. "Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and a woman commit themselves totally to one another until death.
This is the basis from which we start: God has designed man and woman to be complementary in terms of their sexuality thus the sexuality is fruitful. Homosexual relationships are intrinsically disordered and therefore sterile, since they are contrary to natural law.
Ultimately God created us "man" and "woman" for a reason - the sexes are different and not just physically. Part of your essence is either "male" or "female" and this defines you more than even your personality. The Church has always taught that children deserve both a father and a mother, which is why divorce is such an evil (especially the no-fault divorce we see in the US). In gay adoption, children are put with two of one parent who are living a very sinful life. We always love the sinner and hate the sin, but we must fight against laws that would hurt others as well such as is the case of gay adoption.
CCC 2378. A child is not something owed to one, but is a gift. The "supreme gift of marriage" is a human person. A child may not be considered a piece of property, an idea to which an alleged "right to a child" would lead. In this area, only the child possesses genuine rights: the right "to be the fruit of the specific act of the conjugal love of his parents," and "the right to be respected as a person from the moment of his conception."
A child is always a gift of God. And each child deserves to be that gift from God to their parents, which God requires to be a husband and wife.
Thankfully, the Catholic church is fighting gay adoption, but unfortunately no one seems to be fighting with them. Let's pray that God's will be done and that a better understanding of natural law would be accepted among people of the world (and particularly the US).
God bless,
Jay
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Jay, are you sure only the Catholics are fighting gay adoption? Evangelicals joined Catholics in twenty-four hour a day vigil in support of Terry Schiavo. Evangelicals campaigned hard to keep Christ in Christmas. Evangelicals rallied hard in co-operation with Catholics to preserve the traditional definition of marriage. Evangelicals have also stood shoulder to shoulder with Catholics in operation rescue.
I for one am grateful for the numerous occasions in which Evangelicals have faithfully witnessed to gospel values in a spirit of co-operation and solidarity with Catholics. My only fear is that this joyous alliance will be short-lived because they Evangelicals are slowly embracing the contraceptive mentality. My hope is that their reluctance to embrace the contraceptive mentality will help them to reconsider the truths of the Catholic Church as the faithful Anglicans in America are currently doing.
Posted by: Broken Record at February 21, 2006 04:40 PMBroken,
I just keep reading articles (saw another one in the USA Today today) and they all cite the Catholic Church as well as a few legal groups (pro-family groups). I guess I'd just like to see some other church groups come out in opposition.
One point is that the Catholic dioceses run charities that adopt out children, so they are forced into fighting this - perhaps other churches aren't running this type of charity?
God bless,
Jay
BR
The evangelicals I know are staunchly anti adoption but I can't say that any of them have been able to find that their church has taken action to remedy the situation. Some have said they have heard speeches against an *agenda* but there is no uniform declaration. Another feather in the John 17:21 prayer..."that they may all be one...that the world may believe..."
In Love
when we were one
Posted by: when we were one at February 22, 2006 12:06 PM13 children placed in gay homes in Boston in two decades (out of over 700 adoptions) and this is somehow a crisis? The only reason there is a crisis is because the Boston Archdiocese made it so. No rational person is interested in restricting anyone's freedom of religion. But providing adoptions does not equate with religion. If Catholic Charities could not follow state law then they were correct to abandon their adoption services. By discontinuing based on moral principle, they have demonstrated an outstanding example of religious freedom in the United States of America.
Posted by: Michael at March 24, 2006 01:22 PMAlthough homosexuality is against Jehovah and the Bible, one should not discriminate against a person just because of their sexuality when it comes to raising children. I am not for homosexuality, but I don't feel like people should single them out when it comes to raising children. As long as they are raised properly and taught the differnece between homosexuality and heterosexuals and which one is seen as right and wrong, then it's okay. Just because someone isn't a heterosexual doesn't mean their children are going to be homosexuals as well. I think people need to look past the sexuality and at the person themselves. You're all discriminating against a certain group, which is also wrong to do.
Posted by: Hopeful at April 24, 2006 02:31 PMAlthough homosexuality is against Jehovah and the Bible, one should not discriminate against a person just because of their sexuality when it comes to raising children. I am not for homosexuality, but I don't feel like people should single them out when it comes to raising children. As long as they are raised properly and taught the differnece between homosexuality and heterosexuals and which one is seen as right and wrong, then it's okay. Just because someone isn't a heterosexual doesn't mean their children are going to be homosexuals as well. I think people need to look past the sexuality and at the person themselves. You're all discriminating against a certain group, which is also wrong to do.
Take Care,
Hopeful
Hopeful,
I think I understand where you are coming from, but let us be clear here. We all are a product of our environment. There is no denying this. So to not think that a child raised in a home by gay parents will not come to accept that lifestyle as "normal" is very likely...almost assured. So it is not an issue of discrimination it is of what is BEST for the child--in the eternal sense. Don't get me wrong I have friends who are homosexual, so I do not have a prejudice against them. The opposite is true, I sympathize with them and pray for them. However, you must ask yourself the question and be honest...does a child brought up in this "lifestyle" not have many questions to answer and certainly their adoptive (gay) "parents" cannot have the answers because their view of relationships is not modeled in the intended roles of man and woman?
Peace be with you,
Matthew
I love, love, love my gay mom. She's an outstanding mother. I'm 28 now and straight (getting married this summer) and working on my PhD. Why would being gay get in the way of being a wonderful, caring, supportive, marvelous parent? You note that being raised be a homosexual parent might make one think that homosexuality is normal. Well, I concede that point. I KNOW my mom's homosexuality is natural, not a choice, and I think that it is no different really than being straight. One loves whom one loves--and love is a gift in whatever form it takes.
Posted by: H. at May 31, 2006 10:43 AMH.,
Just to clarify, no one is suggesting that homosexuality means you cannot be loving, caring, supporting, etc. The question is: did you lose something by not having a father in your life? Did God design us so that a father and a mother are better suited to raise a child than one alone or two of the same sex? I would be interested in your thoughts on this. The Church is saying that a child deserves both a father and a mother, since men and women are fundamentally different.
God bless,
Jay
Sure you have information on how a man and woman should be the only type of parents.. blah blah.
But here in the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, you have to CHOICE & RIGHT to be gay or straight, you have the CHOICE & RIGHT not to believe in a certain God, and as stated in the The Declaration of Independence, you have the inalienable rights to Life Liberty and THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS. If it makes you happy to be gay and have the family of your dreams, NOBODY has the the right to take that away from you.
Posted by: Stephanie at October 8, 2006 05:27 PMStephanie,
Do children have the "CHOICE & RIGHT" to have one male and one female parent? This is the question - society has to protect those who can't protect themselves first. Studies show over and over that the traditional (one male, one female) family is the best by far for children. Why should we abuse children by taking their rights away just because someone WANTS a child? Should we give children to abusive parent just because they have the CHOICE & RIGHT to be abusive?
And, just to point out the obvious, we aren't taking anything away from anyone. God chose to make homosexual relationships sterile. We simply saying that children deserve a stable, traditional home and we shouldn't give children to those homes that are likely to inflict damage on the kids. You'll have to prove that it is good for the children, rather than that people have the "RIGHT" to children, which they don't.
God bless,
Jay
That is really gay Jay! ha. But anyways, why do u care if people want to be to gether, population is already to big as it is. Let people do what they want, it shouldn't matter to u. U should be able to find love in whatever u want. It shouldn't be limited to man and woman.
Posted by: Blah at May 15, 2007 07:26 PMhi its donny
i think a man and man cannot married becuse that doesnt make sence and how can a men have a baby and its not fare cuz the two men hav a choice and can marry but then how come the kid has no choice like that to get adopted? i dont think they can even say no so its not fair sinse thye dont hav a choice like the dads do
